Both sides of the coin…
Wives submit. Husbands love.
Children obey. Parents discipline.
Slaves obey and serve as if serving the Lord. Masters, do the same to them.
Paul taught the Ephesians the principles for having a harmonious relationship in the home. Yesterday, I read and shared about husband and wife (Ephesians 5). More on husband and wife love and respect
Here’s today passage: (Ephesians 6)
1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 Honour your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), 3 so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth.
Reason for obeying our parents is not because of the reward but because this is right. Condition for obedience is to obey in the Lord. It is the right thing to do – to obey and honour our parents in obedience to the command of God.
There is a promise when we obey God to obey our parents: that we may live a good life – a long life. This promise is our reward – not our motivation. We obey because it is right. It is not about wanting to live a long good life. It is because God says so.
When children respect and honour their parents in the Lord, when the parents teach and discipline them in the way of the Lord, there is peace and well-being in the family. There is a reciprocal relationship. Parents do their part as well.
4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Parents, we are not to frustrate our children – doing things to cause their irritation. One example I am guilty of – nagging. We did not like it when our parents nagged us, did we? We were not happy when they did not listen to us tell our stories. I remember how indignant they were or frustrated they were when I jumped to conclusion without first listening.
As a mom, I cannot teach what I have not learned. I cannot give what I do not have. When I want to discipline my children, I need to have discipline myself – discipline from the Lord. When i instruct my children, where does my instruction come from? Have I learned the lesson myself? Do I walk my talk?
My mom and dad are no longer with me today. I remember and honour them with good memories and living a good life. I honour them by receiving their baton and passing it on their legacy.
Life on earth is to be lived in a reciprocal manner – a two-way street. Wholesome well-rounded living needs to be from a dual lens of faithful obedience to God’s command – to love Him and love neighbour. I am both a child and a parent. Just as I expect my children to obey me for it is right, I need to obey God for it is right. Just as I want my children not to provoke me to anger, I need to do the same.
Lord, help me today to be better mom than I was yesterday. Amen.